Are you unhappy in your relationship, having difficulty resolving conflict, fighting, or feeling disconnected from one another?
Creating a healthy relationship requires an ongoing effort and is not always an easy task.
I am here to help you.
In the article “How to Grow Up” by Pamela Weintraub (Psychology Today May/June 2010), psychologist David Schnarch states that “passionate marriage requires that you become an adult” and “that marriage can’t succeed unless we claim our sense of self in the presence of another.”
To become an adult is an ongoing process of being able to grow into a more whole and honest expression of oneself.
Greater wholeness leads to a healthier relationship.
This is because you will be able to be fully present and listen more effectively when communicating with your partner. You will be able to manage conflict in a mutually respectful way. You will be able to address your own intimacy issues, which in turn leads to greater intimacy in your relationship.
Aisha Sultan writes in her article, “Relationships: The five stages of a relationship” about the last developmental stage of a relationship. She states, “Each person is able to take responsibility for their needs and also support the other person. There is a great deal of warmth, mutual respect, and a balance between autonomy and union. The couple has figured out how to resolve conflicts quickly. They work together as a team, and resentments are few. They have chosen to be with their partner, flaws and all.” (stltoday.com, 2013)
Pamela Weintraub further writes, “The ideal dynamic for marriage is what Schnarch calls ‘interdependence,’ somewhat like the cells of an organism. Each cell functions individually, but they thrive best by relating to other cells in the context of the whole.”
I can support you in this process by helping you take full responsibility for your feelings, for getting what you need without expectation, and by learning to fully love yourself. Come and learn how to embrace these concepts more fully!
- Couples therapy is most successful when both parties are committed to making the relationship work.
- All couples sessions are self-pay because insurance does not provide reimbursement for this service.